The other day my girl, KB, and I were having a discussion about our lives, and she mentioned that lately she'd been trying to live more in the present. This intrigued me, so I asked her to elaborate. She went on to say that, instead of worrying about the future, she's been "showing up" and being fully present in whatever life throws her way.
What she said has stuck with me the last few
days, and I can't stop thinking about it.
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Living in the moment, not worrying about the
future, that seems like such a beautiful way to live life. I know as a mom, even
though I want to, I don't really live in the moment. My mind is constantly
skipping ahead to dinner, or bedtime, or what our schedule looks like for the
rest of the week. In fact, I already have things on my calendar for June. And I
know it's not just moms that do this. I bet most bloggers I know would say
they're the same way.
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I mean, I get it, our lives are busy. We have
full time jobs (and yes, being a stay at home mom or wife is a full time job!),
we have blogs, we have social lives, friends, and families, and it can get a
bit hectic at times. If you're anything like me you're a crazy person very
organized and like to write everything down. My mind races 90 miles a minute
with things to do. Laundry, dishes, work, playdates, grownup dates, my writing,
twitter, facebook, meal plans, the list goes on and on, and my mind never shuts
off. I hate this, because I'm so pre-occupied in my own head, I miss things
that are going on around me. And that's just the small things I think about,
don't even get me started on the big things that I worry constantly about. I'm
so stressed about the future, I can't enjoy my day to day life.
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But, I've decided this has to stop. I need to be
more like KB, I need to live more in the present. More of a day to day kind of
living. I need to push aside my worrying, and focus on what is happening right
now, right here, right in front of me. Now, I'm not saying I'm going to stop
obsessing over things, I'm just saying that for me, there needs to be a
designated time for it. Maybe in the evenings when M goes to bed, or even
naptime. And, since I only get two nights a week to spend time with The Hubs,
I'm going to try to be more present with him those nights. No blogging, no
writing, no social media, no texting, and no stressing about the future. Just
be with him. I hate to admit it, but lately our relationship has suffered
because of our schedules. We're tired and stressed, and we end up arguing and
pouting like 4 year olds on his nights off.
I plan on blogging in
the eveings and scheduling for the next day. Or, ya know, just blogging at
work. I don't really need to be "in the moment" at work, do I?
So, you're probably going to be seeing less of me during the day, unless M's asleep, while I try to live more in the "now". Because the present?
Is pretty darned sweet.
Do you spend too much time worrying about the
future, or do you live in the moment?
7 comments:
Awesome post. I think almost everyone worries about the future to some extent. I really want to work on living in the moment and contentment with what I do have right now. I am always thinking about what's next. Thanks for the reminder!
Im the same way and I think it became worse when I became a mom. Its just so easy to do but I'm going to try this out too. I actually did the same thing while we were on vacation and it was so relaxing!
This is wonderful. And I believe it is a very important attribute to a healthy, fulfilled life. I hope it works for you, and becomes an easier more natural instinct after a while!
Im the same way and I think it became worse when I became a mom. Its just so easy to do but I'm going to try this out too. I actually did the same thing while we were on vacation and it was so relaxing!
Im the same way and I think it became worse when I became a mom. Its just so easy to do but I'm going to try this out too. I actually did the same thing while we were on vacation and it was so relaxing!
I've tried to start doing that myself and it has been good for me and the hubs relationship. We get more QT together that isn't as filled with social media.
Scheduling posts and blogging on Fridays while he is at work has been good for me.
I loved this post! So true!
Definitely need to live in the moment more- I'm such a worrier too
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